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出轨后如何拯救婚姻

我和老公结婚5年，婚后的生活平静幸福。可是去年，老公换了工作岗位，频繁出差，有时候甚至一两个月都不在家。他是个性格内向的人，不善表达，也很少给我打电话。今年年初，我认识了一个特别风趣的男人，我们之间很谈得来，进而有一天做了越轨的事……我知道这样做不对，很丢人，于是和那个男人很快断绝了关系。可是，这件事还是被我老公发现了，他提出了离婚！我不想失去这个家，更不想离开儿子，于是，我恳求他的原谅。经过几次长谈，老公决定原谅我。可是重新回归家庭后，我变得沉默寡言，我特别害怕和老公交流，也不好意思面对亲戚朋友，尽管几乎没有人知道我们曾经闹离婚的事。老公对我的态度是不闻不问，在家里我很少见到他的笑容。我几乎包揽了所有的家务，把老公照顾得无微不至，却依然换不来他的关注。事情过去已经几个月，我几乎每天都在煎熬中度过，经常失眠，我该怎么让自己好起来，让我们的婚姻好起来呢？

2020-09-24两性关系

都说“浪子回头金不换”，可遇到夫妻之间这样的事就没那么容易了。首先，你应该改变态度。虽然你承认了错误，但是字里行间你依然在抱怨你的老公，比如频繁出差、性格内向、不善表达等等，而没有反省你的问题在哪里。其次，坚持从你做起。我们只有解决了自己的问题，才可能带动别人去解决问题。所以如果你在意这个家，就请继续倾尽所能地扮演好一个妻子的角色。

2020-09-24

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